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Here is Why Men Are Advised To Marry Widows

Men have been advised to consider taking widows as wives and this comes after the rampant stigmatization of widows in society.

This piece of advice was given by one of the communicators of the ruling New Patriotic Party (NPP), Awal Mohammed.

According to him, marrying widows bring so many blessings to the man and he made this known in a recent post that he made on the popular social media platform, Facebook.

The post that he made reads;

“In zango, the term ” Bazawara is used for a widow or divorcee.

Usually, they find it difficult to get husbands. 2 out of 10 bachelors will settle for them, not because they don’t see them as attractive but because of stigmatisation. They leave them to some of us who are married to add them as second or third wives. 😆

A bachelor friend of mine, got a divorcee. They love each other. The lady has a child and she’s gainfully employed.

Last week, he sent her to see his parents, then his mother rejected her with the flimsy excuse that he’s too young to marry Bazawara. Interestingly, he’s 6yrs older than her.

Now, I advised him to talk to his uncle who is a malam to convince his mum. Apparently, the uncle wasn’t in support of the marriage so he quoted a hadith( sayings by Prophet Muhammad) that the Prophet once told a youngman who was married to widow that as youngman, if he had married a virgin it’ll have been better for him.

Even though I’m not a malam, honestly, this is almost the third time, that I have heard people wrongfully interprete this particular hadith. They only talk about the part where Prophet Muhammad mention to the youngman and don’t report or talk about the response of the youngman which the prophet blessed him.

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Now, the name of the youngman is Jabir. His father died and left behind 9 siblings who happened to be girls.

“Narrated Jabir bin `Abdullah:

“…… Prophet Muhammad asked me, have you got married?” I replied in the affirmative. He asked, “A virgin or a previously married woman?” I replied, “I married a previously married woman.” The Prophet said, “Why have you not married a virgin, so that you may play with her and she may play with you?” Jabir replied, “I have sisters (young in age) so I liked to marry a matron who could collect them all and comb their hair and look after them.” The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “You will reach, so when you have arrived (at home), I advise you to associate with your wife (that you may have an intelligent son)….”

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In a nutshell, the Prophet prayed for him to give birth to an intelligent son.

The youngman married the previously married woman, because he believe she’ll be best person to help him.

I think our Imams must help to disabuse the minds of our family members who push against the marriage of Bazawaras.

Truth be told, looking at the economic conditions of my friend, the lady can help.

Some are Bazawaras not by their faults by circumstances.

May Allah help all the Bazawaras who are genuinely desirous to get married.

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